In laws or Outlaws

     When couples marry they need to realize that they marry the whole entire family as well. Some may be liked and loved and some, well, not so much. At times it can be a struggle mixing the different personalities as well as the different traditions that each carry. It can almost feel like mixing cultures.

     There a lot of different agendas that need to be dealt with. Mothers can feel jealous that their daughter is moving away and that her purpose as a mother will be diminished. They may also feel as though a new daughter in law will never be good enough for her son. Fathers can sometimes feel as though no man will ever measure up to the perfect man for their daughter.

     When couples marry, they also need to deal with having a very large pair of shoes to fill. If the couples come from families where they have gotten along with their parents, the other spouse may feel a bit of a tug of war or jealousy happening when "he" says, "my mother never cooked it that way."

     A new bride and a groom want to feel independent from their immediate family which is a good thing. They must be cognizant not to exclude the extended families as this will also create hurt heartache and sorrow.

     Sometimes the In-laws can feel like the Outlaws. This is a very challenging situation that if not dealt with soon, can turn toxic and tear apart a family. Through humility and being able to put yourself in the other persons shoes, it can become easier to meld together quickly.

     I am so blessed to have the absolute best in-laws. My children have married the greatest people ever. I even picked one of my Sons in Law out for my daughter and introduced them. My daughters in law are so amazing. I couldn't love them more if I had given birth to them. My parents in law are the greatest example of what a marriage should be and they are the kindest and most non-judgmental parents ever.

     My side of the family is just as great but some of my siblings can be a bit interesting at times. My parents are so wonderful and get along great with my husband. This makes family get-togethers so much fun and void of drama.

  

                   Oh the In-Laws

And then the Out-Laws