Head and neck above the others!

     In society today, there are defined roles or purposes of one sex or the other. In families, it can be apparent that either the father or the mother may play the dominant role.


     While each may have different duties and some may overlap, one will typically dominate when decisions are to be finalized. Sometimes fathers may be viewed as the disciplinarian and mothers, the nurturers. Let’s explore some reasons why this may be the case.


     In cases where the mother is a stay at home figure, mothers are the ones who carry the baby in their body and predominantly are the care providers. Fathers may be seen as the financial support and therefore spend less time interacting with the children due to daily work schedules.


     During and especially at the end of the day, the mother is frazzled and exhausted. She is going to give in more than a father might, especially when the father hasn’t had his patience tried all day. Fathers have a deeper voice which can set the tone of “I mean business.” Mothers, by nature, have a higher pitch and softer voice. This can make it a bit more difficult to be taken seriously if there isn’t constant follow through on the part of the mother.


     Children need a balance of both types. This must be consistent, and children need to see that both parents are on the “same page.” Children may try and pit one parent against the other so they can get what they want.


     Both parents should have equal say in how things are run, however, they also need to present a “United Front” to the children.


     In the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding, we are teasingly told that the man is the head of the home, but the woman is the neck that turns the head. I have always thought that saying was very applicable as well as hilarious.








       Head of the home                   Neck that turns the head

     When respect is given by both parents, the children will grow up in a much happier home life and will learn the essential skills they will need when they become parents.


     The Bishop has two counselors. They each have different duties. One does not hold more Priesthood than the other or possess more power than the other. The Bishop is like Heavenly Father and the head of our families while the two counselors are like the mom and dad. Each has different responsibilities with equal power.


     It’s a great plan when used properly. The problem lies when one parent fails to treat the other as an equal.